I am all for self improvement, but sometimes it's also good to just practice some acceptance. It's okay to not be the best. The older you get the more you will get outshined regardless of how hard you work. Who cares if your mediocre as long as your making money and you have a decent life.
I worked on a hay farm for several years before going back to school and majoring in psychology and then abandoning that and becoming a software engineer. Never found my passion. I don't give it a shit about any of the work I do. But anything is better than working on a hay farm.
I worked on a hay farm for a few years, and I constantly had injuries to my back muscles. Other employees had constant knee pain and neck pain. Nobody that worked there looked healthy. I was always tired and hated going to work. I feel way healthier working in tech.
Your argument sounds good on the surface. But this is true of any two professionals. If you find any two scientists, engineers, doctors and ask them for professional opinions separately you will likely get different answers. They may come to hold the same opinion after collaborating.
It's not true of any two professionals. Ask two biologists about the behavior of a given animal they are experts about and you will get more often than not the same response ("is it diurnal? Does it feed on insects? Can you find it in Africa?").
Ask two carpenters about which tool to use to cut a given piece of wood, and you'll get answers within a given subset of tools.
Ask two poker players about which hand is better (for the same variant of poker) and you'll get the same answer.
Ask two Feng Shui practitioners about how to best position your furniture and you'll get wildly different answers. And it's even worse with Tarot psychics.
That's because, unlike carpentry or biology, there's no rhyme or reason to Tarot, Feng Shui or palm reading: there's no real system to them for their practitioners to draw answers from, they are bullshit. You cannot grab the Big Book of Feng Shui and tell one of the two experts "nope, here it states very clearly that, according to the Laws of Feng Shui, what you are advising is wrong."
In fact, it's the sine qua non of that kind of fringe stuff: the ability to make shit up on the spot to best suit their customer/audience is a perk of their trade, but of course it harms reproducibility.
The person reading your future in coffee stains needs to creatively make shit up as they go, which means a different coffee future reader will give you a completely different answer. Or Feng Shui expert, or Tarot reader. And you cannot even tell them they are wrong, because there's no right or wrong, because everything is made up.
My sample size is low, but I did cry it out with my son at 4 months old and he has slept amazing ever since. He is 16 months old now and he gets excited when I put him in his crib to sleep. He will often go to the crib unprompted around 7:30pm (his normal bedtime), as he is ready to sleep. I've had sleeping problems my whole life, so seeing him sleep so well is very satisfying to me. I will be doing the same with my second child.
We did sleep training with ours, it took two days and a solid sleeper ever since. I don’t think cry it out always works. But the side hustle is that you have a schedule and stick to it.
