personally, i'm a fan of in slut.

i don't have a problem meeting guys. i have a problem meeting guys that i feel any lust for. that's a big problem among the people i know who are looking for lovers on- and offline.

however, i hear the odds are much better for single women in SF than NYC. so if this site doesn't work out for me, i know where i'm moving next..

cool, i haven't heard of heyfoxy, but i love the image on the front page. i'll check it out. there is a focus on sexuality, but it is not a hookup site anymore than reddit or tumblr are hookup sites. i don't see us as competitors, i see us as friends!

Awesome, I'm really excited to see what you guys come up with. Also, I'd definitely be interested in trading some guest blog posts at some point. On the off chance that you're NYC based as well we should totally grab drinks and talk shop sometime.

And the pic on the front is my girl and I. Glad you like it :)

actually, i am in nyc! drinks sometime would be excellent - drop me an email at my HN username @gmail.

i checked out your blog and we definitely share a lot of the same ideals about sex- very cool. as a heads up, your blog's RSS feed is broken right now.

Will I need abs like yours to sign up for the site? Mine are bit more... spongy.

Ha! No, there's no ab requirement ;)

thanks for the feedback; I really wasn't sure how that would come across to random strangers.

TBH, it is kind of hard for me to meet people online now. sure, i could go on OKC and find a hundred dates tonight, but most likely feel no emotional connection to those people. i'm trying to capture the vulnerable spirit of my early years on the web and create an environment where people who can actually connect with each other.

What you are trying to do is admirable, and I understood what you meant with that original line. It didn't however convey what you probably meant.

I would write something along the lines of, "she was known among her friends for her ability to meet great guys online with which she developed deep emotional connections".

Or something like that. You are now qualifying that you had the ability to find the right type of guy online, as opposed to just a random guy. Because as a woman, it doesn't take skill to do the latter.

If I can provide some further feedback, I would truly reconsider the name. Your initial crowd will no doubt be geeky. The word "lust" tend to intimidate women, and even shy men in my opinion. It also fails at conveying that it's a place to "find friends" or to "connect with each other".

Right now the name and your "lusty" design, would be perfect for a site for random hook-ups. I see a major gap between what you are trying to do and what you have so far.

excellent feedback; i'll definitely qualify that line with something more meaningful.

as for the name, i'm actually specifically not going after a geeky crowd (which is why my heart kinda fell out of my chest when i saw it was submitted to HN) and am initially going for younger, artistic, NYC singles. the name is designed to attract the kind of people i want on the site for now.

That sounds exactly the kind of crowd that doesn't need dating sites, especially in NY, the supposed best city for singles (http://www.forbes.com/2009/07/27/best-cities-singles-lifesty...). Any reason why you are going for that?

Best city still doesn't make it terribly easy always. Some times of year like the winter are outright unfun much of the time and meeting people online is still easier occasionally.

note that nyc is number 1 for "online dating." there is a reason for that. nyc has a lot of people in it. sifting through those people is hard.

Opps :) Whenever I see something neat that a friend is doing my first instinct is to spread it like wildfire.

while i'm not ready to get into the details of what sets us apart, i wrote a bit here http://blog.inlu.st/post/3198840889/introducing-inlust divulging the reason for the site and spirit behind it.

that's not the home page. you are looking at the about page. click the logo.

I'm the founder of the site, and just want to point out that the submitter submitted the about page, which is not at all supposed to be the focus of the site. Please click the logo for the front page.

definitely not a cheating site. 'secret' was just supposed to mean i'm not gonna give it away.

I was slightly confused by myself with this too. I'd put a star beside email instead and put *we keep your email secret. For a moment it made me wonder if the email address would be listed to the public or something non-anonymous.

That's not really clear; it should be better stated.

i am collecting them on the front page, so please put your email address there :) the submitter submitted the about page.

Hi, it's not intuitive to know to click on the logo to go back. Maybe you could add a link at the top saying something like 'Click here to go to front page and submit your email for early access'. Another girl here - though I'm in a relationship it's an interesting problem to solve and I'm curious to see what you've come up with.

i think that if you entered the site on the homepage, as intended, and then went to the about page, it would be pretty obv how to get back.

thanks for your comments on this thread! you seem to understand the female online dating problem as i do, and it's nice to have another female backing me up on here.

Hey, you're welcome. If you're coming from a background similar to mine (which it seems from the info on your blog), you're part of your own sub-culture that is reflective of your target market so I'm sure you're getting great feedback from other sources.

it is a dating community that will launch next month.