Not AI chatbots but Claude models. Pandering and rushed thinking is the bane of anthropic models. And since they are the most popular ones they poison the whole ecosystem.
What a poor debunk of the debunk. I had respect for David Fravor but listening an ex F/A-18 pilot say confidently "There is 0% chance that I'm wrong" and keeping using argument from authority convinced me that he's just wrong.
Not any no. But the 2 cases that he is describing definitely sound like the perfect description of an optical illusion / situational awareness tunneling effect.
When you are the only one paying for apartment, hobbies and school, since those "minor" things are out of her mind she has all the time and energy to ngaf about it and bloat her ego, manipulate and gaslight you into thinking you are not good enough boyfriend... husband... father...
These are classic manipulation tricks of narcissists.
And the fact that she allows herself to engage in a 6 hour argument during workdays knowing or not caring that it will absolutely fuck up your entire focus and ability to concentrate for days and bring you closer and closer to burnout and not being able to actually work speaks volumes on how much she cares about you and what she is after in these relationships in general.
She doesn't want an equal she wants a servant. She wants a slave. Both physically and emotionally. Every second... She defines the rules of the game and you obey and play. It's a given. Your whole life with her is her play...
Ugh... I say F that life.
You need to celebrate the day you dodged that bullet. Not everyone has a mental courage to throw those human-sized parasites out of their lives.
People can live 40 years blaming themselves for not satisfying narcissists enough, they reshape their whole identities and morale in the process trying to shove themselves into a shape that will hopefully satisfy ever evolving demands of a narc and never getting satisfied with their lives in the process or becoming self-enclosed philosophers but in most cases just plain miserable...
They finally divorce, while the narcissist will happily jump onto the next victim berating and destroying the personality of the previous victim ignoring the fact that that person's whole life and identity was a sacrifice on the altar of the "wants" of a literal demon.
It's a vicious cycle.
Narcissists should be pariahs in any social circle. Their ability to deliver huge amounts of damage and mess somebody up mentally for years is so underrated that I believe whoever comes in contact with such a person has an obligation to not only immediately jump out of that relationship but also warn others about that person.
Just like coming in contact with COVID you tell others around you about the danger, you should do exactly the same about narcissists.
I wish you all the best and hope now you are more than well equipped to spot these creatures.
And don't forget to transfer the knowledge to your children to break the circle.
Y’all… While I agree that narcissists are extraordinarily harmful, it’s possible OP and his ex partner’s communication dynamic is not indicative of her being a full blown narcissist. It could be that she felt her partner was simply non-responsive and a brick wall about her problems, which extended the argument to six hours, in what was hopefully an one-time occurrence. Open to being wrong, however.
I used to memorize her arguments so that I could use them against her later, only to find that she somehow had another ace up her sleeve. Indefinitely. Leaving me feeling, yet again, like everything was my fault.
My fault for not being understanding enough. My fault for not knowing what she was thinking or going through. My fault for bringing up the issue at the wrong time. My fault for being hurt by her comments or actions.
We separated 4 years ago and she's still telling everyone about how "abusive" I was.
> When you are the only one paying for apartment, hobbies and school
There are two sides to every story. I could say that this is what my wife and I do (because it is what we do), but it is out of convenience and the fact that I'm privileged enough to be able support both of us. It would be technically correct for me to say "I pay for your housing", but doing so would be weaponizing it unnecessarily. In our case we could split everything 50:50 too, we just explicitly choose not to because it's burdensome. I can't now use that against her whenever I want to.
I'm not saying this is OP's situation, but that it is an alternative possible read of the situation given the tiny fraction of detail we've been given.
>When you are the only one paying for apartment, hobbies and school, since those "minor" things are out of her mind she has all the time and energy to ngaf about it and bloat her ego, manipulate and gaslight you into thinking you are not good enough boyfriend... husband... father...
And even "normal" people can slip into this if left with little responsibility in the household.
Funny how my experience is the complete opposite. I perceive twitter threads as a superior format of consuming reading content.
- it's chunked, which forces the writer to formulate more structured thought nuggets and keep the reader engaged
- it allows you to share specific portion of the content that you like instead of sharing a blog that people ignore because they never read past the intro
- instead of bashing publishing on twitter threads, I think we should focus on developing tools that allow to convert and reshare your (I don't mean your but you get the idea) long read blog that nobody reads into twitter threads
I have never skipped a thread on twitter. The longer the better and more engaging.
I strongly believe that format is superior to most other reading formats and it aligns really well with our biological focus rhythms
