I don't think `davnicwil` is wrong here, but I do think it's overly negative. A lot of immigrants through the course of history have fled truly terrible situations and ended up in pretty bad situations where they were disadvantaged, but at least able to get their feet on the ground and build something up.
I agree that I would guess you can do better, especially looking at other countries (there are so many out there! and wonderful people everywhere). But worse comes to worse, don't be afraid that the sky will fall down on you if you can't find better than this arrangement. Just keep working hard and leaping for better (and do keep your eyes peeled as there absolutely could be people who would take advantage of you).
I agree with you, but my main message isn't that he can't do it, it's simply that he needn't, and moreover he definitely shouldn't.
I can't relate to what he's going through but I know he's looking for an out from his current situation, under a great deal of stress, and from that vantage point it's usually difficult to see how varied your options are.
I meant for my overall message to be positive - OP, you do not have to resort to this plan! There is virtually zero chance that this plan is your best option. Assure yourself of that, and take a serious look at the vastly better alternative options you have - some great ideas for which are on this thread!
I agree that I would guess you can do better, especially looking at other countries (there are so many out there! and wonderful people everywhere). But worse comes to worse, don't be afraid that the sky will fall down on you if you can't find better than this arrangement. Just keep working hard and leaping for better (and do keep your eyes peeled as there absolutely could be people who would take advantage of you).