my dad was emotionally cold so he did what he could and ensured that even though he felt awkward hugging and playing with me and my brother that he would work for us and buy us things we wanted. Not everyone is touchy feely. It did take me a while to understand his love to be honest but it was definitely there. He turned down a move to another country because he was worried that it might negatively effect us. With that he lost a promotion and his senior position at a fortune 500 and worked positions much lower to keep us going over the next decade.