I don't have a kid yet (3 months to go), but so far my take would be definitely no force feeding. I can't imagine a kid would go so far as to not eat when hungry? Would they rather starve to death than touch a vegetable? If you start fretting over food, of course you give the kid leverage over you - now they can refuse to eat to punish you...
And with respect to chess, why would you encourage him to forget the game???
Letting him win - maybe there is a better way, like correcting his moves so that he really wins? I only played with a guy who did that once when I was a child, and I was really impressed. Or instead of playing games, work on chess problems together (nobody wins or loses)? Or play together against opponents on the internet?
I can imagine it is difficult to find the right way to handle it right, but then again, maybe to play or not to play chess is not the most important matter in the world either? If you screw that up, it seems likely your kid would still find other things to get interested in.
And with respect to chess, why would you encourage him to forget the game???
Letting him win - maybe there is a better way, like correcting his moves so that he really wins? I only played with a guy who did that once when I was a child, and I was really impressed. Or instead of playing games, work on chess problems together (nobody wins or loses)? Or play together against opponents on the internet?
I can imagine it is difficult to find the right way to handle it right, but then again, maybe to play or not to play chess is not the most important matter in the world either? If you screw that up, it seems likely your kid would still find other things to get interested in.