I took your comment to say "You have to allow access to your data if you're using OAuth, because that's how OAuth works", and wanted to argue against that. The OAuth protocol is so complicated because it tries to be safe and secure and so it doesn't force any data disclosure.
However, I now see that you probably meant "OAuth forces you to accept these permissions explicitely". In that case, we're hopefully both right :)
We (the general public) grant permission for facebook to use our data, with the expectation that they don't let any bad actors do anything with it that harms us (the general public). This has been their image, this is what they espouse, and it is clearly not what happened.
