This should allow you to cross the state jurisdiction bounds. Also with the civil suit you could start talking about taking away his property. That has a tendency to get people's attention.

Perhaps an attorney can weigh in. As I understand it, there is legal recourse available. But it'll take several months, and I don't offer that as a solution. She asked what to do instead of wait it out, and taking legal action of her own is the first thing I would do, even if I had to file the papers myself.