What you say makes sense, and I believe it’s a fundamental gap that can’t be closed. I simply cannot put myself in the shoes and mental model of someone who is pro life (and I’ve tried; otherwise how can I have a reasonable debate with the opposition), and I’m sure the feeling is mutual. Therefore, both sides are to remain in tension until a point comes where democracy overrides through cohort turnover [1] (but at a cost of suffering between now and then).
> I believe it’s a fundamental gap that can’t be closed.
For you, maybe, but not for all. Many/most people believe that there should be _at least_ /some/ restrictions on abortion (abortion/infanticide at 9 months is not supported by the average voter, for example). The gap might not be closeable /in principle/, but for many people who don't think everything through with a first-principles approach there are things they are willing to change on.
[1] https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/fact-sheet/public-opini...