I get the sense from your response that your self esteem is hurting. I don't know anything about you nor what you look like, but keeping fit and being mindful about what you wear goes a long way in my experience, both in terms of your confidence and attraction from other people.

Nah - I have very high self esteem. I just happen to not be good looking.

It’s boomer-talk to think that people don’t care about looks these days. The way people date has changed.