Love the description, but what's the solution on an individual level?
I've missed social events in the past and then bumped into someone and they've said something like 'why weren't you at x? Didn't you see it on social media?', nobody asked me directly, so i wasn't aware / didn't go.
Some acquientices and a few friends have a group chat, they meet up about twice a year, but all year round they are posting memes and general nonsense, mostly from the people I barely know, so i put the chat on mute, but then I miss out on the meet ups i've attended for many years, since i didn't even know they where happening, it's just assumed everyone is reading the thousands of messages and huge intrusion of time from everyone all the time.
I feel like it's altered the very way we socialise and not just that, they way we learn about new stuff (most marketing is social media or internet based these days).
this is not meant to be judgmental (of you or your circle of friends), but if nobody asked you directly, would that not send a signal to you that maybe they are not that interested in hanging out?
I personally don't have many friends, but among the few that i have, it is unlikely that they would fail to notify me in person if there was an event that we would mutually enjoy (and vice versa). Are you talking here about more distant acquaintances/coworkers than friends?
These aren't super close friends, from my understanding all the arrangements are done in the group chat, when i saw one of these people in the street they stopped me directly to ask if i was in the group chat, since i hadn't come to the event.
I've missed social events in the past and then bumped into someone and they've said something like 'why weren't you at x? Didn't you see it on social media?', nobody asked me directly, so i wasn't aware / didn't go.
Some acquientices and a few friends have a group chat, they meet up about twice a year, but all year round they are posting memes and general nonsense, mostly from the people I barely know, so i put the chat on mute, but then I miss out on the meet ups i've attended for many years, since i didn't even know they where happening, it's just assumed everyone is reading the thousands of messages and huge intrusion of time from everyone all the time.
I feel like it's altered the very way we socialise and not just that, they way we learn about new stuff (most marketing is social media or internet based these days).