As someone figuring life out (and also the OP), just wanted to say that I really appreciate you taking the time to write this. Advice is always great. For the most part, this is largely what I've been doing after a lot of analysis, though I avoided including my post-realization strategy in the article as... well, firstly, I haven't seen results yet, and secondly, I don't have enough experience to guide people through this. Some people are fine with the work as long as they can spend time with their kids, and I respect the hell out of that.

I've got a few engineers also looking to find a way out, and we'll definitely check out your platform!