Have you read Genius by Gleick? His response to his wife's death was to frenziedly throw himself into work and systematically abuse women. The idea that his grief was not being repressed doesn't stand up.
Again, very understandable in an ambitious young man growing up in the shadow of war with all that responsibility on his shoulders. But not what you'd call a healthy grieving process.
i would like to know what is a healthy grieving process.
Any correlation made by glieck with his way of living is purely his own interpretation of things, and not feynman's. So, you idea that the idea of grief not being repressed doesn't stand up doesn't stand up (yes, read that sentence carefully).
You are not his mind, nor a psychic (no, not psychotherapist) to tell why he did what he did.
If you ever read his "autobiographies" you'll see he's been very well received by women around him (since his princeton years), not after arlene's death.
You can read the bios yourself. After Arline he went on his "debug how to sleep with women binge" and then slept with his students' wives. Most complained that none of them could live up to his dead wife, and the more ill-treated ones wrote to the others saying that the best way to get out of a Feynman relationship was to make a few dollars by claiming to have missed your period.
This is all passed over quite briefly in Genius, but you'll find more evidence elsewhere.
Again, very understandable in an ambitious young man growing up in the shadow of war with all that responsibility on his shoulders. But not what you'd call a healthy grieving process.