It's not an alternative. It's a very tiny effect affecting a small subpopulation. The issue of changing the entire social structure to further eradicate community is vastly larger and more important than a few weird guys, sorry to say.
It's not that complex. Women decided to say no to the ick. Men have decided the manosphere is more important to them than making an attempt. It's easier to complain than it is to change. Too bad so sad.
If you've got beliefs and you insist on mouthing off on things women find offensive, they won't touch you. It's not a mystery.