There's something wrong with your friend's model 3. If I stand on my accelerator it goes straight (if set straight) and the suspension (set on sport) is hard.
It's not M5 BMW hard, but it's hard. I guess that if you have a performance variant then maybe it would be.
It could just be thats how it is in cars that twitchy. I don't have really any experience with anything so powerful. Fastest car I've owned is only a 7 second 0-60 car.
No, just skill. Some people are not great at operating the controls and the instant response from an electric motor is exposing their driving style. If it's a Tesla, have them switch to chill mode. Forces them to be smooth.
It's not M5 BMW hard, but it's hard. I guess that if you have a performance variant then maybe it would be.