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Our society encourages freedom of choice. That's a bad thing?

I don't drink, don't party, most likely will never like casual sex. But I know people who do, and they like it well enough.

I upvoted you here, since you're not being inflammatory and you're contributing to a discussion, but I also think you're wrong. Society is changing. Social attitudes towards sex never stay the same from generation to generation. It's each individual's choice to participate, though, and that individual freedom matters.



At a certain point, free choice is unmaintainable. People obviously have to be self controlled in their personal lives. Since our personal lives affect each other, the need for self control must extend to the society as well.


How is free choice unmaintainable? There are people of both genders who like casual sex. Am I missing something?


Casual sex is disastrous for society. You are at a high enough social strata where you are not affected, but it has decimated the inner cities. time_management wrote an excellent comment describing how monogamous relationships are key for civilization:

http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=457614


Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners, and those who don't enjoy or do it disapprove even more. No one wants his or her kids to have a parent who slutted it up during college.

I'm all for "free love", so long as it's actually love and not lust or something worse.


> Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners

I learned a long time ago to not tell other people what they enjoyed, wanted, etc.




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