If I didn't do it on purpose, I will never do it, with anyone, including my own family. It does not happen "automatically" for me. I have to be mindful about it. "Force" myself to do it. Do it "on purpose".

Your proposed course of action would leave me with no friends or relationships.

To me, the phrase "relationships take effort" - means literally that. Because every single interaction takes effort.

Perhaps this is one of those "introvert vs extrovert" things.