this is true for just about everything, there is always some as outliers for whatever but isn’t true in general. there are people I believe are rotten to the core but would never wish any violence against them

A significant proportion of people are ok with violence as a means of solving problems. True pacifists such as yourself are relatively uncommon. And even if it was rare to be ok with violence (it's not), those few who behave that way force violence on the rest.