What a load of BS. No, women do not "prefer to be submissive", except in some misguided guys' fantasy lives.
And it really doesn't matter that destroy isn't meant literally - it's still used as a term intent to degrade and humiliate. It's about male power fantasies.
Women also read romance novels set in Victorian times - are you now going to claim that we'd all like to wear corsets and swoon at the arrival of our heroes?
Also: I don't see guys clamoring to become pizza delivery drivers, either, and yet it's a common porn trope.
And it really doesn't matter that destroy isn't meant literally - it's still used as a term intent to degrade and humiliate. It's about male power fantasies.