This reminded me that one of my friends wanted a recommendation from me on FoundersDating. I got to the form you're talking about and here is a screenshot:
Seeing the screenshot (not having looked at the site or anything), the "see/edit this message" is pretty small. Everyone else isn't exaggerating when they say it is small.
I also think it's important to notice that the big, friendly button says "Agreed". "Agreed" doesn't lead me to think that it will send a message, just that I will vouch for them.
http://imgur.com/KSsinEq
On the bottom left corner, you'll see they tell you that they'll send a message to your chosen contacts. You can also edit the message.
http://imgur.com/yA8tHNP
The text is really small. I may not have noticed it had I not been looking for it. Also, I don't know when this was added.