The problem is, you're asking her to choose: techie, black woman, white man or gay man. She's spent a career trying to pass for a 'techie' in a world where everybody wants to assume she's a 'black woman'. In a world where being a 'techie' means wearing t-shirts and jeans, playing FPS's, going out for beers, and basically being a white guy. So yes - she could be a 'techie' - but that means she doesn't get to be a black woman.
Diversity doesn't mean 'we let anybody wear a polo shirt and come along to our beer socials'.
Society stamps that label on your forehead. Down to gendered pronouns, which means everyone's communicating your gender label, no matter how irrelevant it is. (Not to mention violent attacks.)
Diversity doesn't mean 'we let anybody wear a polo shirt and come along to our beer socials'.