Get your hormones level tested first, specifically testosterone.
I'm not sure what you're shooting for but self-help books don't really work. It's like teaching a blind man to see.
Being social is much more about what -not- to say than what to say.
Some guys have low testosterone and struggle with chronic anxiety.
It's nerve-wracking talking to people in this state and you end up with a messed rhythm.
On the topic of talking to strangers, it's really important to not come off as having an agenda.
It's too easy to make the mistake of coming off as needy (creepy is the derogatory term that Millennials use) and it makes the other person feel awkward or "embarrassed to be talking to this weird person".
There's a constant stream of physical cues that has to be processed real-time during a conversation, it's not easy.
One mistake I see often is a person offering up too little or too much during an interaction.
Someone offers a few words and they respond by showering this person with too much attention.
Or, they barely respond at all, which comes off as anti-social and extremely unlikeable. Not saying this is a good or bad thing, but a lot of intellectuals act this way and that's OK if they don't care about everyone disliking them.
I'm not sure what you're shooting for but self-help books don't really work. It's like teaching a blind man to see.
Being social is much more about what -not- to say than what to say.
Some guys have low testosterone and struggle with chronic anxiety. It's nerve-wracking talking to people in this state and you end up with a messed rhythm.
On the topic of talking to strangers, it's really important to not come off as having an agenda.
It's too easy to make the mistake of coming off as needy (creepy is the derogatory term that Millennials use) and it makes the other person feel awkward or "embarrassed to be talking to this weird person".
There's a constant stream of physical cues that has to be processed real-time during a conversation, it's not easy.
One mistake I see often is a person offering up too little or too much during an interaction.
Someone offers a few words and they respond by showering this person with too much attention.
Or, they barely respond at all, which comes off as anti-social and extremely unlikeable. Not saying this is a good or bad thing, but a lot of intellectuals act this way and that's OK if they don't care about everyone disliking them.